Post by shawn
I get parents have their ideas of what their kids lives should be, but
at some point don't you have to listen to your kids? If a kid (really
an adult by this point) is telling you they don't want to go to USC
(or maybe to college at all) then there's really little use to forcing
them to go. Let them go off and make their mistakes and maybe they
will change their minds and then the parents can be there for their
kid. That way if they do decide to go to college you can be somewhat
sure they will put forth the effort needed to succeed.
One of the great trips of my life was in 2004 where we toured eastern
Canada. On our first leg of the trip we were in one city where my wife
suggested our daughter (who was about to enter her high school senior
year) do the local campus tour - and was told no.
Just under a year later no one was more gobsmacked than me when my
daughter said "guess where I'm going next year Daddy?" - yup the same
school she had chosen not to tour.
We and my mother had been making education savings plans for all 3
kids so that paid a big chunk of her education but definitely not the
whole thing - 4 years later combined history and Russian honors. (Her
career from there suffered due her feelings about my mother's death in
somewhat spectacular manner but that's a different story and one she
is emerging from now)